The two simplest words can be “yes” and “no,” but they can get you into the most trouble as a caregiver. If you’re saying yes when you really can’t, you’re painting yourself into a corner. And if you’re saying no when you should be accepting, you’re tying your own hands.
Caregivers Have Some Tough Decisions
The bottom line is that when you’re a family caregiver, you’re faced with difficult decisions on a daily basis. As much as you try, though, you can’t do everything on your own. At some point, you’ll need to accept help from others and you’ll need to whittle down what you can actually commit to.
Saying “Yes” More Often
Some of the situations that you should be saying yes to more often could include when people offer you help, even if it’s vague future help. Offers of help are an opportunity for you to stop in your tracks, find out what this person is willing to do and get a commitment on the books. Turning away help from others because you don’t want to be a burden leaves you holding the bag all the time.
When to Consider Saying “No”
On the other hand, the word “no” can definitely be your friend as a family caregiver. If you’re already over committed, you don’t need to say yes to every situation that comes your way. Start becoming pickier about where your time and your energy go. You can learn how to control those situations so that you’re only saying yes to the extra events and opportunities that fill you with joy and help you be a better caregiver.
The Key Is Balance in Your Own Caregiving Journey
What you’re ultimately looking for here is balance on your caregiving path. Being able to be a caregiver as well as all of the other titles that you wear in your life is important, but you can only do that if you’re paying excellent attention to where you’re spending your “yeses” and your “nos.”
Ultimately, you have to go with your gut more often as a family caregiver. Learn to trust your instincts and don’t worry about whether your every answer is right or perfect.
If you or a senior family member are considering homecare in Wyckoff, NJ, please contact the caring staff at Caring Solutions Home Care LLC. In-home senior care servicing Bergen & Passaic Counties. Call today (973) 427-3553.
I started my career as an ICU nurse over 30 years ago. I have functioned as an educator and preceptor mentoring new nurses in the clinical arena. I have sat on many Patient Care committees authoring a variety of patient care protocols.
In 2007, I saw an opportunity to improve the delivery of patient care services in the home and founded Caring Solutions Home Care. Over the last 10 years I have functioned as the Director of Nursing overseeing all client care, administrative and personnel operations.
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